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Frederick R. Alderman

May 15, 1931 ~ July 6, 2017 (age 86)

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July 10, 2017

4:00 PM to 7:00 PM
Robert L. Yost Funeral Home, Inc.
123 West Main Street
Palmyra, NY 14522

Graveside Service
July 11, 2017

2:00 PM
Palmyra Cemetery
Vienna Street
Palmyra, NY 14522

Funeral Service
July 11, 2017

3:00 PM
Western Presbyterian Church of Palmyra
101 East Main Street
Palmyra, NY 14522

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 Palmyra: Alderman, Fred R., 86, died on July 6, 2017 at the Canandaigua Veterans Hospital. He was born May 15, 1931 to Leon “Ray” Alderman and Mary Helen Black. He was a miracle baby and his parent’s only child. Orphaned at 15, Fred went to live with various relatives but ultimately was taken in, cared for and loved by Gladys and Thurlow Caffyn and their son, Bill of Palmyra.

                   Fred was a Palmyra High School graduate and briefly attended Hobart College. In 1951 Fred enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corp. where he fought gallantly in Korea. The funeral home proudly flies the United States Marine Corp flag in honor of Fred’s service to our country. He returned from Korea and attended Bucknell University. His career spanned many years in business and sales. Over the years he was active in local government, numerous organizations including the Palmyra-Macedon Rotary Club and Canaltown Days. He was an Elder in the Western Presbyterian Church in Palmyra. He had a wonderful sense of humor that remained with him all his life. He was a loyal and generous friend, loved his community, to have fun, read, to take pictures, Christmas, building things, adventures, and growing roses. 

          On April 24, 1954 Fred married Betty Waples of Palmyra, who he had met at her 4th birthday party. Both Fred and Betty were raised in Palmyra but once married, they moved to Lewisburg, Pennsylvania, Henrietta, Chili and Perinton, finally coming home to Palmyra in 1968. Through career opportunities, Fred and Betty also lived in Ohio and Arizona. Many memorable summers were spent at “The Cottage” at Lake Bluff. Fred was a devoted husband and father. Betty and Fred were happily married until Betty’s passing on July 17, 2012.

          Fred leaves his three children, Stuart (Nancy) Alderman, James Alderman, and Betsy (Dave) Lewis. He was a beloved grandpop, grandpa and papa Fred to his six grandchildren (Andy, Aaron and Abby Alderman, Jason (Beth) Alderman, Jessica (Jason) Teller and Kenny (Stephanie) Fox and five great-grandchildren, Ilona, Natalie and Jackson Teller and Bailey Roland and Caiton Fox. Fred and Betty gave their children a wonderful life and they loved their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren fiercely and unconditionally. Fred is survived by Bill (Sue) Caffyn, his cousin Stuart Smith, brother-in-law and sister-in-law, James (Lisel) Waples, nephews Bob and Rick (Lisa) Waples, James (Shirley) Waples, niece Katrin Waples (Lance Contrucci). Fred was predeceased by his niece Michelle Waples Spade,

          Second to his family, Fred was proudest of his Eagle Scout status and that of being a Marine. His children have clear and fond memories of car rides singing the Marine Corp Hymn.

          In June 2012, Fred went to live in Building 8A in the dementia unit at the Veterans Hospital in Canandaigua, NY. He was at peace there and was loved and cared for by the staff, to whom his family is incredibly grateful. Online condolences @

          Calling hours will be held on Monday, July 10, 2017 from 4-7 p.m. at the Robert L. Yost Funeral Home, Inc., 123 W. Main St. in Palmyra.  Burial with military honors will be in the Palmyra Village Cemetery at 2 p.m. on Tuesday July 11. A funeral service will be held at the Western Presbyterian Church, 101 E. Main St. in Palmyra at 3 p.m. Tuesday.  Donations in Fred’s memory may be made to the Rochester Veterans Court Mentors (checks to FLACE-ROCVTC and sent to 151 Curtis Rd., Hilton, NY 14468), the Alzheimer’s Association, the Parkinson’s Foundation, or the Alderman Art Scholarship at Palmyra-Macedon Dollars for Scholars.

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